So many issues arise when dealing with the elderly. This is especially true for those who are lucky enough to age with a spouse. Ever since I read this article about a bingo controversy at a continuing care retirement community (CCRC), the issues surrounding it have been rolling around in my brain.
Just in case you are not aware, a continuing care retirement community (CCRC) is a retirement housing option that offers various options for seniors. They range from independent living to assisted living to nursing home care. As a person’s health deteriorates, they are able to move to higher levels of skilled care without having to change residences completely. Also, spouses can live within close proximity to each other while still receiving the level of care each one needs. There is usually a pricey fee to enter. However, there are great amenities. These include various dining options, housekeeping, social and recreational programs, transportation, 24 hour security. They also have health care services such as memory care.
What If Spouses Want to Be Together?
The article ran last year in the New York Times Science section. “
An Unexpected Bingo Call: You Can’t Play” by Paula Span reported on a CCRC facility in Alabama and details the story of Ann Clinton. Ann moved into her CCRC in 2012 with her husband. They took an independent living apartment, but within a year her husband had to be moved to assisted living and then onto nursing care. Through that whole process, she turned to bingo with her friends as a healthy distraction. Unfortunately, Ann was in her 80s and suffers from Parkinson’s disease. She had to have back surgery in 2014, after which she had to spend time in the nursing facility to recuperate.
Do We Bend the Rules at the Continuing Care Retirement Community (CCRC)?
When she was well enough, she wanted to continue playing. However, now, to get into the game as a non-independent living resident, she was told by the activities director that she needed a sponsor. Her friend willingly obliged. However, after a few weeks the staff wanted to bar her from the game as well as the independent care section altogether. Furthermore, they wanted to boot her back to skilled nursing. When she refused to leave the game, half the women walked out in protest. They felt the rules should be obeyed and she should leave.
What Do You Think?
I am empathetic on both sides. Those who are more independent want to maintain that lifestyle for as long as possible. Furthermore, they have paid good money to do so. They may want to be unencumbered, and perhaps not even see, those who have unfortunately lost their ability to be on their own. They may dread what is coming their way. As such, keeping the less fortunate out of sight may be the only way they can cope and keep the all too pervasive geriatric depression at bay. What about the special care and supervision these patients require in facilities unequipped to deal with them?
On the other hand, where is the compassion? Shouldn’t those of higher order abilities empathize with those who are not as strong? Isn’t that what we strive for societally? Moreover, wouldn’t they want the same consideration when and if it becomes their turn at that twist of fate? What about the fair housing and disability laws with respect to “reasonable accommodations”? Finally, is it even legal to segregate these patients by restricting entry?
With all this as background, I would like to invite your thoughts on the subject. I am anxious to hear all points of view. As you can see, medical, legal, values and ethical issues abound. I am eager to hear your voices!
Best wishes for your continued health and success,
Anita Kamiel, R.N., M.P.S.
Director of Patient Services
David York Agency Home Healthcare Helps Seniors
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